Children and Ghosts: A Perceptive reality?
By Paul Bradford on July 11th, 2008
There’s another theory that its because of the innocence of the child that means that are more open to the suggestion of ghosts or more that that cant try to rationalize their existence. Let’s think about a child’s development, from birth a child’s eyes develop they initially see shapes and blurred images, as they get older they can see farther and start to identify that these shapes and images are in fact objects or people. They start to recognize people who Mummy is and who Daddy is. This is just part of their learning. As they get older, they begin to work on the logical side of their brain, they start feeding themselves the bottle, they start to play alone, trying to put toys into buckets that sort of thing.
This is where the imaginary friend begins to crop up. They stare into different parts of the room as if they are looking at someone; they follow things with their eyes that you simply do not see. They sit in their crib/cot or playpen and seem to be interacting with someone, is this the ghost or imaginary friend? Could they create this imaginary friend or is it possible that they want or ask for a friend? Do they open their minds enough with the idea of a playmate that it allows the ghost or spirit to manifest itself? Their curiosity of their surroundings and the world allows them to see what we, as adults do not.
I have also thought that maybe there is a link to the bloodline. Recently I heard of a case where children with an age difference of nearly 8 years both had imaginary friends and both had the same one as the older child forgot or simply didn’t interact with this being, it would seem it was passed on to the younger sibling.
Maybe there is an attachment. Maybe this spirit has a direct relationship with the family. Maybe mom or dad had the same imaginary friend as a child and simply do not remember.
Many times, I have spoken to people about imaginary friends and they claim to have not had one as a child however, their parents say otherwise.
Could this be another part of the conditioning? As the child gets older they are taught that ghosts do not exist, that what they are seeing is not real and that it is all in their head, their teachings from their parents and the world around them teaches them to ignore or dismiss what they are seeing. Another idea is that as they get older and they learn more their heads are so full of other stuff that that they don’t have time or space for their imaginary friend.
Only recently has the talk of ghost or spirits actually been an accepted conversational piece as before media hype the whole topic was something of a taboo. The prevailing societal norm was that people who said they see ghosts must be somewhat crazy or at least not all there.
However, over the past few years more and more people have found that there are people out there who do not think they are crazy. Will this mean that the imaginary friends will increase in numbers? Could it be possible that if more people accept that these beings are real or that there is such a thing as ghosts then the “imaginary friend” will be seen by all and not just by the children?
Another idea is that as they get older they learn more their heads are so full of other stuff that that they don’t have time or space for their imaginary friend
This obviously is not the case for all children or all adults as life and teaching also play a part in their beliefs. Nevertheless, this is simply a theory loosely based on ideas and thoughts from various people and an interesting idea.